It’s Just Like Grief.  It’s Grief.

It’s Just Like Grief. It’s Grief.

We’ve all been feeling what looks like/sounds like grief for a variety of reasons. Grieving for what was, grieving about what is and what isn’t, what could have been, what won’t be………….   Inept Government Officials!...
Homeless?? Keep Moving

Homeless?? Keep Moving

I’m homeless now.  For a time.  You see, I moved out of the condo.  A friend dubbed that place “the treehouse”, since it was on the 3rd floor and faced the woods.   That was the last home I shared with my husband.  We were there together...
Does it Matter?

Does it Matter?

There are many ways to experience grief.  We grieve over the death of loved ones, to be sure.  That’s a biggie.  We grieve over unrealized dreams or failed relationships or scarred childhoods……all because of how it feels. ...
The Chrysalis

The Chrysalis

When you’re deep in grief, you really are not yourself.  And you know it, you feel it, you see it in the mirror.  It’s quite clear that the eyes you see are not your eyes.  They’re vacant.  You feel hollow and empty.  It...
Guilty? Not Guilty??

Guilty? Not Guilty??

Hey, I’m starting to feel better!  I can actually go for periods of time now and not feel like I’ve been gut punched.  I can actually enjoy the sunshine and the warmer temps.  I can spend some time thinking about myself and maybe even...
Don’t Say THAT!

Don’t Say THAT!

I wrote previously about not knowing what to say to people who are grieving. I know it’s difficult to bear witness to someone’s pain, to actually contain their grief for a moment while you’re in their presence.  It’s awkward and it’s...
What’s My Line?? Really, What Do I Say?

What’s My Line?? Really, What Do I Say?

Listen, before I went through all of this compound grief, I was a dumb ass about saying things straight out of the can!  I’m sure I said, “Stay strong”, or “God doesn’t give you any more than you can handle”.  I’m...
Taking Notes

Taking Notes

During a grief group I attended, we were asked to write some things about our grief.  First instruction: “Write what grief makes you feel” Second: “Define your grief” Third: “What are your questions for grief” Fourth: “What is your future” Here are my answers: 1....
The Grief Expert

The Grief Expert

You know, I call myself an expert, but, I hold no degrees on the subject of grief or grieving.  I have no advanced training of any kind, no level of academic achievement whatsoever.  Perhaps it would be better stated that I could consider myself an...
Don’t Cry For Me

Don’t Cry For Me

I got some great feedback the night I did my show from a fellow dramatis personae.  She said, “You were vulnerable but not a victim”. That meant so much to me.  Part of the reason I tried to make everyone think everything was ok all the time was because I...
Blest Be the Tie

Blest Be the Tie

When someone dies, not only does your relationship with that person change, but, chances are, your relationships with other people change, too.  Sometimes you grow closer together, sometimes further apart.  But, mostly, it just shifts to a new reality, like...
Grief, The Great Equalizer

Grief, The Great Equalizer

I begin this process of blogging not really knowing where this will take me.  I have been experiencing profound grief over the last 7 years.  Except for one sister, I’ve lost my entire immediate family, including my husband.  And, I’ve lost several...

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