Susan's Musings
by Susan Hofflander
It’s Just Like Grief. It’s Grief.
And, when the aggrieved are suffering, expressing their sadness by saying, “my mom died”, you wouldn’t reply, “Well, all moms die. so, I don’t know why you feel so bad. You need to just get over it. It happens to everyone.”
Homeless?? Keep Moving
I’m homeless now. For a time. You see, I moved out of the condo. A friend dubbed that place “the treehouse”, since it was on the 3rd floor and faced the woods. That was the last home I shared with my husband. We were there together...
Does it Matter?
There are many ways to experience grief. We grieve over the death of loved ones, to be sure. That's a biggie. We grieve over unrealized dreams or failed relationships or scarred childhoods......all because of how it feels. It's not because of...
The Chrysalis
So, I’m going out on a limb here. I’m coming out of the closet. I’ve been reluctant to share with you just how deeply I’m still grieving. Why? Because people don’t want to hear it. We, as a society are not comfortable with grief, are we. If we can’t fix it, we’re flummoxed on just what to do.
Guilty? Not Guilty??
One of my biggest discoveries was that, when someone dies, the love does not. The love lingers on. And on. It doesn’t leave you. The love and the spirit lives on forever.
Don’t Say THAT!
The grieving doesn’t end at the funeral! Yes, yes, everyone shares their stories and has a good laugh and a good cry. And, all of that support and camaraderie is wonderful. And, then it’s gone. And, then it’s silent. And, then everyone moves on. And, you don’t. And, you STILL need to talk and let out the steam. For the griever, AFTER the funeral is when the grieving really starts.