Susan's Musingsby Susan Hofflander
There are many ways to experience grief. We grieve over the death of loved ones, to be sure. That's a biggie. We grieve over unrealized dreams or failed relationships or scarred childhoods......all because of how it feels. It's not because of...
So, I’m going out on a limb here. I’m coming out of the closet. I’ve been reluctant to share with you just how deeply I’m still grieving. Why? Because people don’t want to hear it. We, as a society are not comfortable with grief, are we. If we can’t fix it, we’re flummoxed on just what to do.
One of my biggest discoveries was that, when someone dies, the love does not. The love lingers on. And on. It doesn’t leave you. The love and the spirit lives on forever.
The grieving doesn’t end at the funeral! Yes, yes, everyone shares their stories and has a good laugh and a good cry. And, all of that support and camaraderie is wonderful. And, then it’s gone. And, then it’s silent. And, then everyone moves on. And, you don’t. And, you STILL need to talk and let out the steam. For the griever, AFTER the funeral is when the grieving really starts.
Listen, before I went through all of this compound grief, I was a dumb ass about saying things straight out of the can! I’m sure I said, “Stay strong”, or “God doesn’t give you any more than you can handle”.